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Leading by the Heart

Ever since I became a mother I have had an inner battle going on inside me between my emotional reactions and my desire to have calm, positive interactions with my children. I finally found the tools I needed when I went to a Teaching Self Government Couples retreat. Nicholeen Peck gave a wonderful presentation about the Heart, Mind, and Body Connection that truly changed my heart and how I viewed myself and my children.

 

Nicholeen talked about the different parts that make up each one of us, the heart, mind and body.

 

The Body

The body is our emotional center. It is our feelings and carnal desires. It tells us when we are hungry and tired and when something feels good.

 

The Heart

The heart can also be called the will, the spirit, the conscience. This is our center of truth and seeking light and connecting with God. It is also where we can make positive connections with others especially those most important in our lives, our family.

 

The Mind

The Mind is the puppet of either the body or the heart, whichever is stronger at the time. If the body is in control the mind could be focusing on wants and desires and selfish attributes. And what is in our mind often comes out of our mouths. If the heart is in control, it puts the body in its proper place and enlightens the mind.

 

Of course, Nicholeen went in to greater detail about these attributes, but this is the very simplified version. As I listened this presentation I began to see myself in a different light. Yes I have weaknesses, but there is a part of me that is very strong and desires everything good and right and I can empower my heart to overcome my body. Even though I had grown up learning and knowing that evil lies in the natural man and the carnal mind, Nicholeen created a clearer picture for me of how it is all connected and also taught me how to make plans and learn skills to strengthen my heart and will to do right. I felt my confidence grow and felt free from the bondage I have been suffering from my emotions.

 

After I saw myself in a clearer light, I looked at my children in a different way. I realized that most of the times that they misbehave are because they are reacting to their own little bodies and emotions. I know there are times they are trying to "push my buttons" but those are bad habits created by my inability to control my own reactions. Now I see that one of my main jobs as their mother is to teach and train their little hearts to overcome the passions and emotions of their bodies.

 

I will continue to discuss my ability to become calm in coming posts but I want to encourage any who read this to look at yourself and your heart and the strength that lies within you. Then look at your children and your spouse. Look into their eyes and their heart and see the greatness and potential that lies within them.